Introduction :
We have many selfhelp programs for different things in Africa and elsewhere.For example, Selfhelp housing schemes, Selfhelp tills, Selfhelp concoctions for medical reasons Selfhelp laundries The list goes on…
If someone doesn’t want to help himself, he/she can’t expect to be helped.Help in any area of life and living start with self.The “Self” concept are a powerful tool if used correctly,Even The Bible says that I can do all things…
In order to be helped, one must first admit, he/she has a problem and need help. Not Only will power but conviction
The first step to recovery is,
1.Prayer
Prayer can do what no man can do. It can change things and circumstances.
In Prayer we admit to our weakness and that we have a problem and need help. We acknowledge the presence of God and His authority over our lives and His ability to offer us help.
Prayer is Preparations for your journey to recovery.When you Pray, you call on an Authority greater than yourself, your ability, will power or your skill and talent.
2.Seek the scripture
We seek the scripture, enquire from the Lord. Read, Study, Meditate and Apply Following a list of scriptures that you can use.
3. Have a plan
Have a plan to reduce your usage and develop the discipline to uphold it. For example, if you use 3 times per day, plan and decide to use 2 times a day. You must develop the discipline to stick to your plan of Action. It’s a conscious decision back up with Prayer and reading positive literature and listening to positive inspiring music. To change a bad habit will take time and effort, especially when you attempt to do it on your own. In order to do this, you must unlearn the “bad” relearn and continue to learn new habits. To better understand this, it’s like a bucket with contaminated water, in order to use the bucket or water, you must clean the contaminated water before you can use it.
4. Break negative ties
Break ties with all negative associations or relationships. This won’t be easy at all, however, if you are serious about your freedom, then, unfortunately, this is a decision you will have to make. When you start this process, be wise, don’t just try and walk away and be deceived, thinking it will be an easy ride. You must have a plan to smoothly transition from those associations and or relationships. I’m sure you know, some associations or relationships has been established to sustain our needs yet others are there to sustain other’s habits, needs or even livelihoods. So when you break it just like that it could be detrimental to you or others, however this is structured. Just apply caution, you are the only person who will know the extent of your relationships or associations.
5. Find Structure
Find an accountability structure to monitor progress, provide encouragement and be of help as and when you need it. Accountability structure are always a winner. I always maintain, we cannot be prosecutor, defense attorney and judge to ourselves. If this is the case, we almost always rule in our favor. Even if you just have someone who you have confidence in that you will give authority to speak into your life or to randomly check on you. Or someone you can, from time to time just “offload”. Make no mistake, all of us need someone like that in our lives. Because life in itself become too hard and complicated to bear at times and for a person to carry that by yourself is a hard thing to do. Everybody needs a Somebody at times. Nevertheless, it’s your decision to make.
6. Find Help
If the problem are too difficult, find help. You don’t have to carry this alone. When you feel it’s getting too difficult, find help before it’s too late. Remember, you’ve tried, if you fail, trying you’ve done well. Now, take courage and reach out to a friend and or family who can assist you getting to your next level of intervention.
7. Join a Support group
Join a Support group
8. Celebrate
Celebrate each achievement and progress, no matter how insignificant it might look
9. Make notes
Make notes of progress, failures and dissappointments